Why Sexual Orientation is nobodys business but your own
There used to be a time long, long ago it seems when no one would dare ask you what your sexual preference was unless they were on the other side of the bed from you. In a time before tmi became human nature, that sort of disclosure was reserved for potential love interests. Back when we didnt feel the need to advertise our orientation at every opportunity, the beauty of sexual intimacy was in more than the unveiling of the womans figure or getting a look at the mans package. The intimacy started with the question mark. The unknowing. Not knowing and not discussing each others personal business in this area was what made close friendships close. They were the ones you told those things to, not your coworkers around the water cooler. Imagine a time when only your best friend knew these kinds of details about you. Try to recall the days when none of your business was the appropriate reply to do you like girls or boys? Its
what made school-teachers so alluring and mysterious, once upon a time. Not knowing if academics and scholars with their heads so full of knowledge and information even thought or cared about such things. Until you met their spouse at some event that filled in the gaps about them. Until that day you ran into them in the grocery store with their kids for the first time, you didnt even think too much about whether Mr. Faulkner liked hims or hers. Now all of that has changed.
Whether you wish to know or not, someone will guide you by the hand, bring you over to the list and force you to become informed about who sleeps with which gender. The NBA star, the news anchor, the gossip channel host, the elected official. Sure we may never ever meet these people in real life, but we wont be allowed to get away with not knowing more about their sex lives than we ever cared to know. People dont get outed anymore. They file their status in the public knowledge pool and practically send you a notification to go check it out.
In my humble opinion, sexual orientation is personal and has no relevance to anyone outside of your relationship. But it should be obvious to most everyone, you disagree. Its vital to who we present ourselves as in public, you want me to believe. To that I say, ones sexual orientation does not need to be broadcasted or propagandized in order for us to navigate through societal norms. Contrary to what some would like me to believe, your sexual orientation does not need to be put out there on the table from the start. And, if I may say so without sounding like an old church lady, there is far more that is vital to individual expression than ones personal preference in the bedroom.
